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A message from today’s meditation:
We all have those moments where the same negative thoughts and patterns keep popping up, hindering our growth and happiness. This feeling of being trapped in a repeating cycle isn’t a coincidence – our brains are wired for efficiency which means that the repetition of old conditioning uses the least energy. And so familiar patterns, even unhealthy ones, can become ingrained over time. But what if there was a way to break free from this cycle and access a whole new level of potential? The answer lies in cultivating a powerful skill: witnessing your thoughts.
“Become a witness to your thoughts.” – Tara Brach
“Each time you meet an old emotional pattern with presence, your awakening to truth can deepen. There’s less identification with the self in the story and more ability to rest in the awareness that is witnessing what’s happening. You become more able to abide in compassion, to remember and trust your true home. Rather than cycling repetitively through old conditioning, you are now actually spiraling toward freedom.” – Tara Brach
Have you experienced being “the observer”? Where you’re having thoughts and you realize that you’re not caught up in the thinking, but it’s like you’re watching the thinking with just a little more distance. Where instead of feeling like, “I am drowning!” you’re almost looking down on yourself and seeing yourself having the experience, “I can see that I feel like I’m being hit by wave after wave, struggling to take a breath.”
If I can step outside myself and look at myself, then which part of me is doing this ‘seeing’? In Buddhist philosophy there is a term for this, it’s called ‘wisely seeing’. With practice it means that I step outside of my old ‘automatic’ response (pattern), and I am giving myself the opportunity to exercise actual freedom of choice, instead of letting an old programme do my decision making for me.
“Feeling compassion for ourselves in no way releases us from responsibility for our actions. Rather, it releases us from the self-hatred that prevents us from responding to our life with clarity and balance.” – Tara Brach
Can you take responsibility without self-judgement? Can you hold yourself accountable without self-criticism? Can you take a close look at any mistake you’ve made without the urge to punish yourself for it?
In our attempt to do better it’s easy to use the same old tools that were used on us before: shame, punishment and guilt. But in truth, these redundant old tools awaken within us a self-hatred that clouds our vision and prevents us from fully embodying the observer. Think about it, how would you be able to take an honest look at yourself if you’re simultaneously ashamed of what you see? Love asks you to put away the judgement and also, to hold yourself accountable.
Become a witness to your thoughts. When you find yourself being able to see EVERY part of YOU with acceptance, and also take responsibility for how you want to do things differently… you gain access to a whole new level of potential.
A few thoughts for self-reflection:
- “Am I witnessing my thoughts, or am I caught up in them?” Take a moment to pause and observe the nature of your thinking.
- “Can I acknowledge this thought without judgment?” Allow yourself to simply see the thought without getting attached to it.
- “What choice do I want to make in this situation?” Empower yourself to choose your response rather than react automatically.
By cultivating the practice of witnessing your thoughts, you embark on a journey of self-discovery and liberation. You unlock a reservoir of inner strength and compassion, paving the way for a more fulfilling and empowered life. The “Observer” meditation is waiting for you – take a step towards becoming the author of your own story, not a prisoner to your thoughts.
– pierre –
Today’s LIVE meditation is: The Observer.
A moment of reflection
(If you have the time, use this question as a journal prompt, because whenever you put pen to paper you’re wiring the neural pathways that create your new habits. But if you don’t have the time, just take a moment to reflect on your response.)
Mapping Your Mental Patterns: Think of a recurring negative thought pattern or emotional reaction that shows up regularly in your life. Write about a recent specific instance when this pattern emerged. Then, explore these questions: If you could step outside yourself and observe this pattern like a compassionate scientist, what would you notice? What does this pattern seem to be trying to protect you from or help you avoid? Imagine you could have a gentle conversation with this part of yourself. What would it tell you about why it keeps showing up? What does it need from you to feel safe enough to soften or transform?
Today’s LIVE meditation
https://youtu.be/YggUD-r1Vpo 2025
https://youtu.be/abKjHReyznM 2024
https://youtu.be/jreR5fkkFHs 2023
https://youtu.be/oukOpuAxvt0 2022
Q&A for deeper learning
1. Q: I understand the concept of witnessing thoughts, but how do I actually do it in real-time when I’m overwhelmed?
A: Start small and be patient with yourself. When you notice you’re caught in overwhelming thoughts, try this simple technique: Take three conscious breaths and ask yourself, “What am I thinking right now?” Just naming the thought (“I can see that I’m having the thought that this is terrible” rather than “This is terrible”) creates a subtle but powerful shift. The goal isn’t to stop the overwhelm immediately, but to create tiny moments of space between you and the experience. With practice, these moments naturally expand.
2. Q: Isn’t witnessing my thoughts just another form of avoidance or spiritual bypassing?
A: This is an important distinction. True witnessing isn’t about detaching from or avoiding your emotions—it’s about being fully present with them without being consumed by them. When you witness with compassion, you’re actually more engaged with your experience, not less. You’re feeling everything fully while maintaining enough perspective to respond rather than react. Avoidance tries to escape feelings; witnessing embraces them with awareness and love.
3. Q: What if I judge myself for having the same negative thoughts over and over? How do I witness the witnessing?
A: This is beautifully meta and completely normal! When you notice judgment arising about your repetitive thoughts, you can witness that judgment too. Try saying internally, “I notice I’m judging myself for having this thought again.” Then offer yourself the same compassion you’d give a friend learning a new skill. Remember, the brain’s tendency to repeat familiar patterns is neurological, not personal failure. Each time you notice and gently redirect is actually rewiring your brain, even if it doesn’t feel that way.
4. Q: How is “taking responsibility without self-judgment” actually different from just making excuses for my behavior?
A: Responsibility without self-judgment is actually more rigorous than self-criticism, not less. When you remove the noise of shame and self-attack, you can see your actions and their consequences more clearly. You can acknowledge harm done, understand the underlying patterns that led to the behavior, and make genuine amends or changes. Self-judgment clouds this clarity with emotional drama. True accountability asks: “What happened, why did it happen, how did it affect others, and how can I do better?” without the added layer of “and I’m terrible for it.”
5. Q: I’ve been trying to become the observer, but my thoughts seem to get louder and more chaotic. Am I doing something wrong?
A: You’re likely doing everything right! When you first start paying attention to your thoughts, it can feel like they’re multiplying because you’re finally noticing what was always there. It’s like turning on a light in a room you thought was quiet, only to realize it was full of activity. This initial chaos is normal and temporary. Your mind isn’t actually busier—you’re just becoming aware of its natural activity. Keep gently returning to the observer position without fighting the thoughts, and gradually you’ll notice more space and less reactive engagement.
6. Q: Can witnessing thoughts really change ingrained patterns, or is this just a temporary coping mechanism?
A: Witnessing creates genuine neuroplastic change in the brain. Each time you observe a thought or emotion without immediately reacting, you’re literally weakening the neural pathways of automatic response and strengthening new pathways of conscious choice. This isn’t temporary relief—it’s fundamental rewiring. However, this process takes time and consistency. Think of it like developing physical strength: each individual workout might feel small, but over time, your capacity genuinely transforms. The key is approaching it as a practice rather than expecting instant permanent change.
7. Q: How do I know if I’m being truly compassionate with myself versus just being permissive or letting myself off the hook?
A: True self-compassion has a quality of strength and clarity that permissiveness lacks. Compassion says, “I see that you’re struggling, and I understand why you made that choice, and I believe in your capacity to learn and grow.” Permissiveness says, “It’s fine, don’t worry about it, you can’t help it.” Compassion holds you accountable to your highest potential while offering support for the journey. It’s firm but kind, like a loving parent or mentor. You’ll feel energized and capable rather than defeated or excused. If you’re unsure, ask yourself: “Does this perspective help me grow, or does it keep me stuck?”