We see the world through the lens of how we view ourselves, in fact you can test this by becoming aware of how often your sub-conscious asks the question, “what does this say about me?”
When you’re trying to park and you accidentally bump the curb, when a cashier disrespects you, when your child throws a tantrum in public, when you lose a business deal – a scared part of our subconscious can’t help but look around and wonder if anyone else saw this fail and asks, “what does this say about me?”
This view of ourselves is the lens through which we evaluate the reactions from the people around us. But when we upgrade the way we see ourselves, then we upgrade the way we see the people around us as well.
When Anita Moorjani had her near death experience and was looking down at her own body on that hospital bed, for a moment she lost the old lens through which she’s always viewed herself. Immersed in a sea of love she was able to see herself in a way that she never had access to before:
“As I looked at the great tapestry that was the accumulation of my life up to that point, I was able to identify exactly what had brought me to where I was today. Just look at my life path! Why, oh why, have I always been so harsh with myself? Why was I always beating myself up? Why was I always forsaking myself? Why did I never stand up for myself and show the world the beauty of my own soul? Why was I always suppressing my own intelligence and creativity to please others? I betrayed myself every time I said yes when I meant no! Why have I violated myself by always needing to seek approval from others just to be myself? Why haven’t I followed my own beautiful heart and spoken my own truth? Why don’t we realize this when we’re in our physical bodies? How come I never knew that we’re not supposed to be so tough on ourselves? I still felt myself completely enveloped in a sea of unconditional love and acceptance. I was able to look at myself with fresh eyes, and I saw that I was a beautiful being of the Universe. I understood that just the fact that I existed made me worthy of this tender regard. I can’t say this strongly enough, but our feelings about ourselves are actually the most important barometer for determining the condition of our lives!”
I have a few more thoughts from Anita that I want to share with you.
“Loving yourself means being your own best friend, standing by yourself at all times, including times of failure; being there for yourself no matter what.” – Anita Moorjani
“Love yourself like your life depends on it, because it does.” – Anita Moorjani
“When you’re good to yourself, you’re actually being good to everyone around you because when you feel good, you’ll only react well to other people. At the same time, it’s very easy for you to do things for other people when you know that other people are just an extension of yourself.” – Anita Moorjani
“Transform your world by transforming your internal state. Start by learning to let go of negative self judgement, and replace it with positive and loving thoughts about yourself. Be kind to yourself, and watch your external world change.” – Anita Moorjani
If we want to change the way we see ourselves and live in the energy of love, we need to be able to open our arms to every part of our SELF. Yes, even the “worst” parts need a soft place to rest.
“When you can completely love your ego unconditionally and accept it as part of how you express in this life, you’ll no longer have a problem with it. It won’t impede your growth – on the contrary, it will be an asset.” – Anita Moorjani
There lives inside of you both a fearless creator and also a scared human. You can choose to be the fearless creator but if you reject the scared human, its fear will constantly reach for your ankles and yank you back down.
If you try to reject any part of yourself you’re simply increasing the fear in your system. If you push away the parts of you that are scared, their voices only grow louder.
It is when you accept, allow and even love all parts of you, that the fear in your system settles down. And every time that the scared human becomes calm, you will naturally embody the fearless creator that you are!
A few thoughts to guide you to the strongest part of you:
- Have acceptance for every part of yourself. Embrace all parts of yourself, including your strengths, weaknesses, and imperfections.
- Practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would treat a friend.
- Challenge negative self-talk. While your arms are open to all parts of you, understand that your old programming is full of old recordings from the past – don’t accept negative inner narratives as truth.
- Step into your power. When you open your arms to every part of your human experience, understand that these arms that can hold every part of you, belong to your soul. When you are kind even to the “worst” part of you, then you embody the strongest part of who you are, you have become the expression of your soul.
Today’s meditation is a practical application of dealing with what is calling inside of us. Your pain, your sorrow, your fearful thoughts are not mistakes… they are asking to be held.
Wishing you the BEST day!
– pierre –
Today’s LIVE meditation is: A sense of self.