“Your Daily Dose” is a quick two minute read packed with bite-sized wisdom from all the great teachers. But you could also choose to turn it into something more… a powerful daily practice for personal growth. Give it a try!
A message from today’s meditation:
REALNESS – being real, this really lights me up!
I don’t think that I was always like this, but something changed for me at some point in my own journey when I came to a deeper understanding of what it means to be human. It’s messy!
We were conceived in a messy puddle of human bodily fluid. For our whole lives we have daily routines to try and deal with our own constant presence of messy human bodily fluid. And then we go to the supermarket to buy toilet paper, tampons or condoms and we try and hide these from the view of people around us, so that they don’t see we have messy human bodily fluid to deal with on the daily… I’ve always found this rather silly, our pretending to one another that we’re not really human.
And this is just on the physical level, because the intangibles – the thoughts and feelings and emotions – are at least just as messy… but they are much easier to hide, easier to pretend that “I don’t have to deal with all THAT human messiness.”
“We can’t find our path without getting messy… I never found my way to clarity without first befriending confusion, in all its chaotic forms. I never found a path that felt like home, before falling into quick-sand first. I never established a new way of being, without trying the wrong way of being on for size… In the heart of chaos, is the clay that shapes us home. Chaotic Magnificence!” – Jeff Brown
“It’s not about giving up on the fairy tale relationship. It’s about landing the fairy tale in reality. It’s about giving the fairy feet. It’s about peeling away the prince’s armor and loving the human down below. It’s about wiping off the princess’s make-up and loving her divine humanness. It’s about finding romance in the naked fires of daily life. When our masks and disguises fall away, real love can reveal itself. Actually forget fairy tales – the human tale is much more satisfying. We just have to learn how to get turned on by humanness.” – Jeff Brown
“If you want to live a more spiritual life, live a more human life. Be more truly, fiercely, heartfully human.” – Jeff Brown
I’m not saying that we should wallow in our messiness, but it’s impossible to deal with what we’re pretending doesn’t exist. And when we continue to pretend that we’re not really human, we end up drowning in the messiness that we’re trying to ignore.
First accept, then act – Accept the part of you that needed those old patterns in order to feel like you could cope, and then choose how you want to act differently now. Choose how you want to BE differently now. But first accept that the “worst” parts of you have just been trying damn hard to keep you alive.
We can all learn to be turned on by real humanness, be authentic, and have more authentic relationships.
So how do we cultivate this love for authentic humanness? Here are a few steps to guide your exploration:
- Acceptance is the First Step: Acknowledge the parts of yourself you’ve hidden away. Recognize these patterns were ways of trying to cope, and offer them compassion.
- Shift from Reaction to Choice: Once you can accept that your old reactions came from a need to try and survive, choose how you want to respond differently now. How can you act from the wisdom of your authentic being? How can you be the truest version of yourself in your interactions?
- Celebrate Humanity in Others: Look for the realness in those around you. Appreciate their vulnerabilities, their quirks, and their imperfections.
By embracing our human messiness, we pave the way for deeper connections and a more fulfilling life. Let’s ditch the fairy tales and step into the vibrant, messy reality of human experience. After all, that’s where the real magic lies.
– pierre –
Today’s LIVE meditation is: A sense of self.
Today’s LIVE meditation
https://youtu.be/_Bjfw79Rv2k 2026
https://youtu.be/SL_8Z44pytE 2025
https://youtu.be/X4xH0x1W-wU 2024
https://youtu.be/IBQGAARvQ6U 2023
https://youtu.be/hQHJwqBxpYA 2022
Practice the “Daily Dose”
Let’s put it into practice! Choose what works for you – daily, once a week or whenever inspiration strikes. Putting pen to paper wires the neural pathways that will create your new habits.
1 – Affirmation
Not affirmations today, but a few steps we can follow towards a more authentic life. Write down the step that needs most of your attention on a sticky note and place it somewhere that you’ll be able to see it the whole day.
- Acceptance is the First Step: Acknowledge the parts of yourself you’ve hidden away. Recognize these patterns were ways of trying to cope, and offer them compassion.
- Shift from Reaction to Choice: Once you can accept that your old reactions came from a need to try and survive, choose how you want to respond differently now. How can you act from the wisdom of your authentic being? How can you be the truest version of yourself in your interactions?
- Celebrate Humanity in Others: Look for the realness in those around you. Appreciate their vulnerabilities, their quirks, and their imperfections.
2 – A moment of reflection
Use today’s question as a journal prompt. If you don’t have the time to sit down and write, just take a moment to reflect on your response.
Mapping Your Hidden Self: Think about the parts of your humanness you tend to hide – the physical stuff we all quietly manage (like tucking toilet paper or tampons out of sight at checkout), and the less visible stuff, like fears, insecurities, or emotions you don’t let show. Pick the one you hide most often and ask: “what am I afraid would happen if people saw this?” Then imagine setting it down, just for today. What shifts, even slightly, when you stop pretending it isn’t there?
3 – Quotes to share
Send a quote to someone who needs it, or share them all on social media to spread the good vibes!
4 – Q&A for deeper learning
Read through the questions and answers and write down at least one “aha moment” that clicked for you.
Q1: Doesn’t accepting my “messiness” mean I’m giving up on self-improvement?
Not at all. Accepting your humanness is actually the foundation for genuine growth. When you stop wasting energy pretending parts of yourself don’t exist, you can channel that energy into conscious change. The “first accept, then act” approach means acknowledging your patterns with compassion before choosing how to respond differently. You can’t heal what you won’t acknowledge.
Q2: How is being “messy” different from just being irresponsible or making excuses?
There’s a crucial distinction between embracing your humanness and wallowing in dysfunction. Embracing messiness means accepting that growth is non-linear, emotions are complex, and perfection is impossible – while still taking responsibility for your choices and actions. It’s about self-compassion, not self-indulgence. You acknowledge your struggles without using them as excuses to avoid growth or harm others.
Q3: What if I’ve built my whole identity around being “put together”? How do I start embracing messiness?
Start small and be patient with yourself. Begin by noticing where you perform perfection instead of being authentic. Perhaps share one small vulnerability with a trusted friend, or stop hiding a minor “imperfection” you usually conceal. Remember that your “put together” persona served a purpose – it helped you feel safe. Honor that, while gradually exploring what it feels like to let others see more of your real self.
Q4: How do I know the difference between healthy vulnerability and oversharing?
Healthy vulnerability comes from a place of self-awareness and choice, not desperation or manipulation. Ask yourself: “Am I sharing this to deepen connection and authenticity, or am I seeking validation, attention, or trying to make someone else responsible for my emotions?” Healthy vulnerability feels like an offering, not a demand. It’s also contextual – intimate details belong in intimate relationships.
Q5: What if others judge me or pull away when I show my real self?
It’s a fair fear to have, but it’s worth pausing on what we mean by “real self” before assuming the world can’t handle it. Often, when we show up and get burned, we blame the rejection on other people’s inability to handle our authenticity – but that’s not always what happened. Sometimes we’ve put a wounded inner child behind the wheel and said “you drive,” letting old hurt steer the interaction, and then when the reaction is bad, we tell ourselves “people can’t handle my authenticity.” But an unfiltered emotional reaction from that wounded part isn’t the same thing as your authentic self – it’s an old pattern wearing authenticity’s clothes. Real authenticity is grounded, not reactive. When you show up that way – messy but self-aware, honest but not aggressive – the people worth keeping will lean in, not away. The goal was never universal approval. It was connection that’s real, which means some people will self-select out – and that’s not failure, that’s the system working.
Q6: How can I learn to be “turned on by humanness” in others when their flaws annoy me?
Those flaws that irritate you are frequently the same “messiness” you’re learning to accept in yourself, just showing up in someone else’s body. Instead of asking “why are they like this,” get curious about the fear, insecurity, or coping mechanism driving their actions. The more you practice accepting your own quirks and contradictions, the more room you naturally have for theirs; self-acceptance and acceptance of others tend to grow together. It won’t make every flaw charming, but it can shift you from judgment to curiosity, which is usually where the real connection starts. This doesn’t mean accepting harmful behaviour, but rather understanding that there is a wounded human behind the behaviour. Compassion is a skill that develops with practice.
Q7: Is this approach compatible with spiritual or religious beliefs that emphasize transcending human nature?
Many spiritual traditions actually support this approach when understood deeply. True transcendence only comes through embracing rather than rejecting our humanity. The quote “If you want to live a more spiritual life, live a more human life” suggests that spirituality isn’t about escaping our humanness but about bringing consciousness to it. Most wisdom traditions teach compassion and acceptance – qualities that must begin with ourselves before extending to others.