The ice cannot resist the melting.

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A message from today’s meditation:

Mooji’s words might just be the most beautiful description of doing “inner work” that I’ve ever come across.

It’s natural for any of us to look at our own “worst” qualities and want that to change, but when we judge or punish ourselves for it, we become involved in an inner war. And while this might seem to create the behaviour change that we want, it also creates an inner civil-war that could last forever.

Mooji captures poetically what happens when instead of fighting ourselves, we encounter the parts of ourselves that scare us, with love and acceptance:

“Once you are present in the Energy field of Self-discovery, it’s like you are a piece of ice being held in warm water. The warm water is the Self. The ice is the mind. The warm water is not fighting with the ice. The ice can not resist the melting. It is a natural and fatal attraction.” – Mooji

I have seen this happen in clients so many times that I have come to really trust this process, all your “worst” parts will melt when they are held in the warm love of your being.

And then you will learn to be your own biggest supporter, to be the one who is best equipped to catch yourself when you fall, even on your “worst” days. And about those “worst” days, Mooji has this to say:

“Be true to Love. Do not betray Her. Then, on the day that the forest of the mind bursts into flames, you will not run. You will remain silent and still; for this is when Love bears Her sweetest fruit: your untouched Presence.” – Mooji

Mooji is capturing the truth that no matter how well we do our inner work, we are likely to still sometimes experience our own darkness, but that this is what the work is for. When the “forest of the mind bursts into flames” you will not be afraid any more, you won’t need to run because you will have learned how to be present with YOU. And when you no longer abandon your SELF, when you are able to do the “holding” when all parts of you are crying out in pain/rage/fear/grief… THAT is when the “melting” happens.

There is no need to force the “worst” parts of you to change in order to change your behaviour. You need to hold them in love and acceptance and realise that every time you do this you are BEING your soul. Keep practising being your soul and you’ll find yourself naturally acting from your soul. Keep acting from your soul and your old behaviour is changed.

Lasting change doesn’t happen through force but through gentle transformation. By befriending our shadow, and holding our darkness with love and acceptance, we gently bring them into the light. Keep practicing self-love, and you’ll witness the gradual melting of the ice, revealing the radiant being you truly are.

A few affirmations to melt into love:

• “I embrace my shadow with loving kindness.” – Hold the “worst” parts of you in kindness and in love, until they completely melt in the warmth of your acceptance.
• “I am both my own greatest supporter and most compassionate witness.” – Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend.
• “My compassionate presence is enough.” – Ground yourself in the present moment, allowing your true nature to shine through.
• “I trust the process of inner melting, allowing love to transform what force cannot change.” – Release control and allow transformation to unfold naturally.

By cultivating self-love and inner peace, we embark on a journey of profound transformation. Remember, you are a beautiful being, deserving of all the love and kindness you can offer yourself.

– pierre –

Today’s LIVE meditation is: A sense of self. 

A moment of reflection

(If you have the time, use this question as a journal prompt, because whenever you put pen to paper you’re wiring the neural pathways that create your new habits. But if you don’t have the time, just take a moment to reflect on your response.)

The Ice and Warm Water Metaphor: Reflect on Mooji’s metaphor of ice melting in warm water and specifically the words, “the warm water is not fighting with the ice.” Now think about a quality or behavior in yourself that you’ve been trying to change through self-criticism or force. How has this approach affected you emotionally and spiritually? Has judging and criticizing yourself actually ever helped you evolve? Imagine holding the “worst” parts of yourself in the warm embrace of unconditional love until they melt. Write about what this process of melting might look like for you personally.

Today’s LIVE meditation

https://youtu.be/_jTWK1z_Hto 2025 

https://youtu.be/OVQN-FsuVaU 2024

https://youtu.be/evymgHU35SM 2023

https://youtu.be/fewoIw_XMFk 2022

Quotes to share

Q&A for deeper learning

1. Q: What does it mean that “the ice cannot resist the melting”?

A: This metaphor suggests that when we hold our difficult emotions, behaviors, or shadow aspects in the warm embrace of self-love and acceptance, they naturally transform without force. Just as ice naturally melts in warm water without resistance, our challenging patterns dissolve when met with compassion rather than criticism. The transformation happens organically when we create the right conditions of love and acceptance.

2. Q: Won’t being self-compassionate make me complacent or prevent me from changing negative behaviors?

A: This is a common misconception. Self-compassion actually creates more sustainable change than self-criticism. When we approach our flaws with kindness, we create psychological safety that allows for honest self-reflection and growth. Self-criticism often creates shame and resistance, which can actually reinforce the behaviors we want to change. Compassion provides the emotional foundation needed for genuine transformation.

3. Q: How do I practice self-compassion when I’m experiencing intense negative emotions?

A: Start by acknowledging your pain without trying to fix it immediately. Use phrases like “I am experiencing a human moment” or “I can see that I’m really struggling right now.” Then remind yourself that the human experience includes the whole spectrum of emotion—you’re not alone in this. Finally, offer yourself the same kindness you would give a good friend. The key is to stay present with your emotions rather than running from them or fighting them.

4. Q: What does it mean to “be your soul” in practical terms?

A: Being your soul means acting from your deepest, truest self rather than from reactive patterns, fear, or ego. It involves pausing before reacting, connecting with your values and authentic nature, and responding from a place of love and wisdom rather than unconscious conditioning. When you consistently practice this, your actions naturally align with your highest self.

5. Q: How can I tell if I’m making progress with this inner work?

A: Progress often shows up as increased emotional resilience, less internal conflict, and a growing ability to stay present during difficult moments. You might notice that you catch yourself sooner when falling into old patterns, or that you can hold space for your emotions without being overwhelmed by them. The key indicator is whether you’re becoming more of your own ally rather than your own enemy.

6. Q: What should I do when my “forest of the mind bursts into flames”?

A: When you’re experiencing intense mental or emotional chaos, the practice is to remain as present as possible rather than running away through distraction or avoidance. This means breathing deeply, acknowledging what you’re feeling, and staying with yourself through the storm. It’s about developing the capacity to be a compassionate witness to your own experience, even when it’s painful.

7. Q: Is this approach compatible with taking action to change my life circumstances?

A: Absolutely. Self-compassion doesn’t mean passive acceptance of harmful situations. Rather, it provides the emotional stability and clarity needed to take wise action. When you’re not waging war against yourself, you have more energy and wisdom available for making positive changes in your life. The difference is that you’re acting from love and wisdom rather than from self-hatred or desperation.