REALNESS – being real, this really lights me up!
I don’t think that I was always like this, but something changed for me at some point in my own journey when I came to a deeper understanding of what it means to be human. It’s messy!
We were conceived in a messy puddle of human bodily fluid. For our whole lives we have daily routines to try and deal with our own constant presence of messy human bodily fluid. And then we go to the supermarket to buy toilet paper, tampons or condoms and we try and hide these from the view of people around us, so that they don’t see we have messy human bodily fluid to deal with on the daily… I’ve always found this rather silly, our pretending to one another that we’re not really human.
And this is just on the physical level, because the intangibles – the thoughts and feelings and emotions – are at least just as messy… but they are much easier to hide, easier to pretend that “I don’t have to deal with all THAT human messiness.”
“We can’t find our path without getting messy… I never found my way to clarity without first befriending confusion, in all its chaotic forms. I never found a path that felt like home, before falling into quick-sand first. I never established a new way of being, without trying the wrong way of being on for size… In the heart of chaos, is the clay that shapes us home. Chaotic Magnificence!” – Jeff Brown
“It’s not about giving up on the fairy tale relationship. It’s about landing the fairy tale in reality. It’s about giving the fairy feet. It’s about peeling away the prince’s armor and loving the human down below. It’s about wiping off the princess’s make-up and loving her divine humanness. It’s about finding romance in the naked fires of daily life. When our masks and disguises fall away, real love can reveal itself. Actually forget fairy tales – the human tale is much more satisfying. We just have to learn how to get turned on by humanness.” – Jeff Brown – Jeff Brown
“If you want to live a more spiritual life, live a more human life. Be more truly, fiercely, heartfully human.” -Jeff Brown
I’m not saying that we should wallow in our messiness, but it’s impossible to deal with what we’re pretending doesn’t exist, and when we continue to pretend that we’re not really human, we end up drowning in the messiness that we’re trying to ignore.
First accept, then act – Accept the part of you that needed those old patterns in order to feel like you could cope, and then choose how you want to act differently now. Choose how you want to BE differently now. But first accept that the “worst” parts of you have just been trying damn hard to keep you alive.
We can all learn to get turned on by real humanness, be authentic, and have more authentic relationships.
So how do we cultivate this love for authentic humanness? Here are a few mantras to guide your exploration:
- Acceptance is the First Step: Acknowledge the parts of yourself you’ve hidden away. Recognize these patterns were ways of trying to cope, and offer them compassion.
- Shift from Reaction to Choice: Once you’ve accepted, choose how you want to respond. How can you act with more authenticity? How can you be the truest version of yourself in your interactions?
- Celebrate Humanity in Others: Look for the realness in those around you. Appreciate their vulnerabilities, their quirks, and their imperfections.
By embracing our human messiness, we pave the way for deeper connections and a more fulfilling life. Let’s ditch the fairy tales and step into the vibrant, messy reality of human experience. After all, that’s where the real magic lies.
– pierre –
Today’s LIVE meditation is: A sense of self.