“Your Daily Dose” is a quick two minute read packed with bite-sized wisdom from all the great teachers. But you could also choose to turn it into something more… a powerful daily practice for personal growth. Give it a try!
A message from today’s meditation:
At the apex of love, is SELF love…
Love and self-love are not exactly different kinds of love, they are intertwined, have the same source and one is an extension of the other. I can only love others to the extent that I have learned to love myself.
“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.” – Eartha Kitt
Just in case you don’t know who Eartha Kitt is, I’ll share her story below. When your start in this world is as tough as hers was, it’s easy to take the meaning that there is no love in the world. But that was not Eatha’s truth. Her experience of life taught her that love starts with falling in love with yourself.
This is an extract from a piece in Vanity Fair. You can follow the link below for the whole article:
In her own words describing herself: “I have no idea how old I am. Believe it or not, I have no paper that says I was ever born,” she wrote. “Maybe that’s why they call me a legend, because I don’t really exist.”
We do, actually, know when and where Kitt was born: on a cotton plantation in the town of North, South Carolina, in 1927. Eartha Mae Kitt endured much trauma as a child. Taunted as a “yellow girl” because of her light skin (some believe her real father was the son of the plantation owner), she was rejected by her mother, whose lover did not accept Kitt. Beaten by abusive relatives, the usually shoeless Eartha Mae often had only an itchy potato-sack dress to wear. She would find safety hiding under the beams of her aunt’s house, silently puffing on stolen cigarettes, attempting to become invisible. Food was scarce, and she once ate red clay because she was starving.
You can read her story at the link below. It’s an often shocking tale of a girl on whom life closed the door before she even got her start, but she never closed the door on herself. She learned how to love herself and became “The most exciting woman in the world.”
“As you get older you realize that falling in love is often falling for a fantasy. Learning to love yourself is the only true lasting love. All else is temporary.” – Eartha Kitt
https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2021/01/eartha-kitt-old-hollywood-autobiography
One last thought on love and self-love:
“The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.” – Deepak Chopra
May you learn that at your source, you have always been the love that you’ve been looking for. And that the only thing to do is to share the love that you have found in YOU, with the humans around you.
Here are a few guiding mantras for self-reflection:
- “I am worthy of love and belonging.”
- “I accept myself unconditionally, flaws and all.”
- “I celebrate my unique gifts and talents.”
- “I forgive myself for past mistakes and choose to move forward with kindness.”
- “I cultivate self-compassion and treat myself with the same care I give to others.”
We are all born with the capacity to love and be loved. But sometimes, the experiences of life can cloud our perception. The key is to remember that love is our essence, and it’s always within us. We don’t need to seek it externally; we simply need to reconnect with it internally.
Have a beautiful Friday filled with love for you!
– pierre –
Today’s LIVE meditation is: Sharing love.
Today’s LIVE meditation
https://youtu.be/1lVOUXJ0rmM 2021
Practice the “Daily Dose”
Let’s put it into practice! Choose what works for you – daily, once a week or whenever inspiration strikes. Putting pen to paper wires the neural pathways that will create your new habits.
1 – Affirmation
Write down your favourite affirmation on a sticky note and place it somewhere that you’ll be able to see it the whole day.
- “I am worthy of love and belonging.”
- “I accept myself unconditionally, flaws and all.”
- “I celebrate my unique gifts and talents.”
- “I forgive myself for past mistakes and choose to move forward with kindness.”
- “I cultivate self-compassion and treat myself with the same care I give to others.”
2 – A moment of reflection
Use today’s question as a journal prompt. If you don’t have the time to sit down and write, just take a moment to reflect on your response.
Reflecting on Love: Think about a past or current relationship. Were you seeking love to fill something missing within yourself, or were you sharing love from a place of wholeness? How would that relationship look different if you approached it from a foundation of self-love?
3 – Quotes to share
Send a quote to someone who needs it, or share them all on social media to spread the good vibes!
4 – Q&A for deeper learning
Read through the questions and answers and write down at least one “aha moment” that clicked for you.
Q1: What does it really mean to love yourself?
Self-love means accepting yourself unconditionally—flaws, mistakes, imperfections, and all. It’s treating yourself with the same compassion, patience, and kindness you’d extend to someone you deeply care about. It’s not narcissism or selfishness; it’s recognizing your inherent worth and refusing to abandon yourself, even when you’ve made mistakes.
Q2: How can self-love and loving others be the same thing?
Self-love and love for others aren’t different types of love—they flow from the same source. When you truly love yourself, that love naturally overflows to others. You can only give what you have; if your well of self-love is empty, you’ll seek love from others to fill that void rather than sharing from abundance. The depth of your self-love determines the depth of love you can authentically offer others.
Q3: I had a difficult childhood like Eartha Kitt. Does that mean I can’t learn self-love?
Absolutely not. Eartha Kitt’s story proves the opposite. Despite enduring abuse, rejection, and poverty, she learned to love herself and became legendary. Your difficult past doesn’t disqualify you from self-love—it makes your journey toward it even more powerful. Trauma can cloud our perception of love, but the capacity for self-love exists within everyone, waiting to be rediscovered.
Q4: Isn’t focusing on self-love selfish?
This is a common misconception. True self-love isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. When you love yourself, you stop seeking validation from others, you set healthy boundaries, and you show up more authentically in relationships. People who lack self-love often become draining to others because they’re constantly looking externally for what they need to cultivate internally. Self-love actually makes you a better friend, partner, and family member.
Q5: Why do so many relationships fail if people don’t practice self-love first?
When you don’t love yourself, you unconsciously seek a partner to “complete” you or compensate for your self-love deficit. This creates unhealthy dynamics—codependency, neediness, or losing yourself in the relationship. As Eartha Kitt noted, you’re often falling for a fantasy rather than reality. Relationships built on self-love deficits are temporary because they’re based on need rather than genuine connection.
Q6: How do I start loving myself if I’ve never learned how?
Begin with awareness and small acts of self-compassion. Notice how you speak to yourself—would you talk to a friend that way? Start treating yourself with more kindness. Practice the affirmations mentioned in the article daily. Forgive yourself for past mistakes. Celebrate small wins. Seek therapy or support if needed. Remember, self-love is a practice, not a destination—it deepens over time.
Q7: What’s the connection between self-love and attraction?
As Deepak Chopra explains, the secret of attraction is loving yourself. When you genuinely love yourself, you stop judging yourself and others harshly. You become open, authentic, and radiate a different energy. You’re not desperately seeking love to fill a void; you’re sharing love from abundance. This authenticity and wholeness is naturally attractive because it’s rare and genuine—people are drawn to those who are comfortable in their own skin.