“Your Daily Dose” is a quick two minute read packed with bite-sized wisdom from all the great teachers. But you could also choose to turn it into something more… a powerful daily practice for personal growth. Give it a try!
A message from today’s meditation:
Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself. I don’t remember who said this, but I wholeheartedly agree. People who are not afraid to unashamedly be themselves have a peace about them that is tangible, it feels calming to be in their presence.
If you’re trying to flex your “self” muscles, to lean into who you really are, you’ll find that not everyone thinks it’s beautiful though. While some thrive in supporting the real you, others might resent the fact that you’re not being who they want you to be. But here’s the thing about being yourself – when you do get to the place where you truly own yourself, you won’t need anyone’s permission to be happy in your own skin.
“Self-esteem comes from the self, not from acquisitions and approval.” – Wayne Dyer
And that’s why it’s called ‘SELF’ esteem… it is the ability to hold your ”self” in high esteem regardless of the messaging you receive from around you.
How do we build this muscle of self-esteem? I heard Brene Brown give a definition of self-esteem that sounded like this: “Self-esteem is when I can clearly see all of my flaws and still hold myself in high regard”, and this is how you can build that muscle, purposely coming face to face with your inadequacies, and simultaneously expressing love for yourself.
“Beginning today, make the decision to love and accept yourself just the way you are. Say your name followed by the words “I love you” and make this your daily mantra, repeating it often, especially during times of stress. Let it be your first thought upon arising and the last thing you think before falling asleep at night. This simple act of self-courtship can profoundly change your world. Try it for yourself and see. Make a personal decision to be in love with the most beautiful, exciting, worthy person ever – you.” – Wayne Dyer
“As you awaken to your divine nature, you’ll begin to appreciate beauty in everything you see, touch and experience.” – Wayne Dyer
It’s beautiful to have the kind of relationships where people acknowledge you. But if your self-worth is dependent on this outside validation, then your “need” tends to sour even those beautiful relationships. It’s impossible for another human to take on the job of filling your cup while they have so many of their own distractions. It has to be YOU. You are the only one who can ALWAYS be there for you.
As you walk this journey of self-discovery and empowerment, here are a few guiding mantras to help you along the way:
- “I embrace my imperfections.” Perfection is impossible, and I choose to put that burden down. Anyone who ever accomplished anything meaningful was an imperfect human—my imperfections don’t disqualify me.
- “I nurture a kind inner voice.” I choose to speak to myself with kindness, even when addressing my harsh inner critic.
- “I celebrate my achievements.” No matter how small, I acknowledge and honor my accomplishments.
- (add your name) “_______________, I love you.” This simple act of self-courtship has the power to transform my world.
In conclusion, building self-esteem is a journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. By embracing our imperfections, practicing self-love, and appreciating the beauty within and around us, we can forge an unbreakable bond with ourselves.
Remember, you are the only one who can ALWAYS be there for you, so your own love and acceptance should always be unconditional.
– pierre –
Today’s LIVE meditation is: The observer.
Today’s LIVE meditation
https://youtu.be/mE3wo452gl0 2025
https://youtu.be/QIKMYN-eROA 2023
https://youtu.be/tKuNZhRVvSQ 2022
Practice the “Daily Dose”
Let’s put it into practice! Choose what works for you – daily, once a week or whenever inspiration strikes. Putting pen to paper wires the neural pathways that will create your new habits.
1 – Affirmation
Write down your favourite affirmation on a sticky note and place it somewhere that you’ll be able to see it the whole day.
- “I embrace my imperfections.” Perfection is impossible, and I choose to put that burden down. Anyone who ever accomplished anything meaningful was an imperfect human—my imperfections don’t disqualify me.
- “I nurture a kind inner voice.” I choose to speak to myself with kindness, even when addressing my harsh inner critic.
- “I celebrate my achievements.” No matter how small, I acknowledge and honor my accomplishments.
- (add your name) “_______________, I love you.” This simple act of self-courtship has the power to transform my world.
2 – A moment of reflection
Use today’s question as a journal prompt. If you don’t have the time to sit down and write, just take a moment to reflect on your response.
Practicing Self-Courtship: Wayne Dyer suggests saying your name followed by “I love you” as a daily practice. How does this idea make you feel? What resistance comes up when you think about speaking to yourself this way? Write about what unconditional self-love would look like in your life. How would you treat yourself differently if you truly believed you were worthy of your own love and care?
3 – Quotes to share
Send a quote to someone who needs it, or share them all on social media to spread the good vibes!
4 – Q&A for deeper learning
Read through the questions and answers and write down at least one “aha moment” that clicked for you.
Q1: What’s the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence?
A: Self-esteem is your overall sense of personal worth and value—it’s about accepting yourself as you are, flaws and all. Self-confidence, on the other hand, is about believing in your abilities to handle specific situations or tasks. You can have high self-esteem while still feeling nervous about public speaking, for example. Self-esteem is the foundation that allows you to maintain your sense of worth even when your confidence wavers in particular areas.
Q2: Why do some people seem to resent it when I become more authentic?
A: When you start being more authentically yourself, it can trigger discomfort in others who may have been benefiting from your people-pleasing behavior or who are uncomfortable with their own lack of authenticity. Your growth can serve as a mirror that highlights their own areas of struggle. Additionally, some people may have formed relationships with the “version” of you that aimed to please them, and they may resist the change. This is natural, but it’s important to remember that their discomfort is not your responsibility to fix.
Q3: How can I tell if I’m seeking too much external validation?
A: Signs of over-dependence on external validation include constantly checking social media for likes and comments, feeling anxious when people don’t respond to your messages immediately, changing your opinions based on who you’re with, feeling devastated by criticism, or finding it difficult to make decisions without input from others. If your mood significantly depends on how others treat you or respond to you, it’s likely that you’re relying too heavily on external validation for your self-worth.
Q4: Is it selfish to focus so much on loving myself?
A: Absolutely not. Self-love is not selfish—it’s essential for healthy relationships and personal well-being. When you’re not constantly seeking validation from others, you can show up more authentically in your relationships. You’re less likely to become needy or resentful, and you can give love more freely because you’re not operating from a place of scarcity. Think of it like the airplane safety instruction: you put on your own oxygen mask first so you can help others.
Q5: How do I practice self-compassion when I’ve made a mistake?
A: Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness you’d show a good friend. When you make a mistake, acknowledge it without harsh self-judgment. Ask yourself: “What would I say to a friend in this situation?” Then say those same supportive words to yourself. Remember that making mistakes is part of being human—it doesn’t define your worth. Focus on what you can learn from the experience rather than punishing yourself for it.
Q6: What if saying “I love you” to myself feels fake or uncomfortable?
A: This discomfort is completely normal and actually indicates that this practice is needed. If self-love feels foreign, it’s because you haven’t been practiced at it. Start small—perhaps begin with “I accept you” or “I’m learning to love you” if “I love you” feels too challenging. The goal is to gradually shift your inner dialogue from criticism to kindness. With consistent practice, what feels awkward at first will become more natural and genuine.
Q7: How long does it take to build genuine self-esteem?
A: Building self-esteem is a lifelong journey rather than a destination with a fixed timeline. Some people may notice shifts in their self-perception within weeks of consistent practice, while others may take months or years to see significant changes. The key is consistency and patience with yourself. Remember that you’re essentially rewiring thought patterns that may have been established over decades. Every small step toward self-acceptance is progress worth celebrating, regardless of how long the overall process takes.