Do you need to change your personality?
This might feel like a harsh question, almost an accusation of something being wrong with who you are. But don’t dismiss it too quickly. Join me on this thought journey to see if it resonates with you:
“The freedom the Buddha envisioned does not come from jettisoning imprisoning thoughts and feelings or from abandoning the suffering self; it comes from learning how to hold it all differently, juggling them rather than cleaving to their ultimate realities.” – Mark Epstein
From this quote of Mark Epstein, I’d like you to recognize what he calls, “the suffering self”, and that we don’t find peace by rejecting this “scared human” within us but by learning to have acceptance of it, and to hold it in a different way.
“As you step into your limitless self, you might be confronted with old habits and patterns that are not necessarily based in truth. These old ways of being show up because you have repeated many of them thousands of times in the past.” – Debbie Ford
Debbie shines the light here on the other side of humans that we all have access to, the “limitless self”, your most creative self or, your highest potential. And she recognizes that what keeps us from fully living as our “limitless self”, are these old patterns created by the scared human in order to feel like he/she can cope and survive in this sometimes scary world.
Your personality is nothing more than this collection of coping mechanisms in an attempt to try and survive, and what makes it seem fixed is simply that the same patterns of survival have been on repeat for thousands of times. Your old coping mechanisms are well practiced, and everything that we practice so many times, we become really good at.
But when you’ve been doing “the work” to overcome old fears, and when old patterns start losing their power because they are not needed anymore, then you don’t reach for old coping mechanisms any longer because you have built a new set of responses that invite your limitless self to shine!
“How you think, how you act and how you feel is called your personality, and your personality creates your personal reality. When you change your personality, you change your personal reality.” – Joe Dispenza
Your personality is simply the set of thinking-feeling-acting habits that you’ve had on repeat, and when you no longer need your old set of reactions in order to feel like you can cope, then you’ve changed your personality. It’s a journey, have patience, but know that some day you’ll look back and realize that you have completely changed your personal reality.
Remember these mantras as you embark on this adventure:
- I am not defined by my past experiences or coping mechanisms.
- I am constantly evolving and growing, and I have the power to cultivate new, empowering responses.
- My limitless self awaits, and I am worthy of stepping into my full potential.
We are all on a journey of self-discovery and transformation. May you find the strength and courage to shed limiting patterns and embrace your limitless potential.
The masks you’ve worn in the past don’t have to be permanent. Your true essence, your limitless self, shines brightly beneath.
Wishing you the BEST day today!
– pierre –
Today’s LIVE meditation is: The masks we wear.