Even though the theme of today’s meditation is silence, I chose a different topic from Byron Katie’s work which I’m sure you’ll love! It’s brilliant advice for every one of us –
We live in an age of constant connection, where the lives of others are laid bare on social media platforms. It’s easy to get caught up in the drama, the triumphs, and the struggles of those around us. But is this constant focus on others truly serving us? Or is it creating more stress and anxiety in our own lives?
Katie’s insights are particularly relevant in today’s world. We often find ourselves projecting our own fears, insecurities, and desires onto others. We might believe that we know what’s best for our children, our partners, or our friends, but this belief is rooted in arrogance and can lead to strained relationships.
“I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s. Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our business. When I think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,” I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business. If I am mentally in your business or in God’s business, the effect is separation.” – Byron Katie
“If your happiness depends on your children being happy, that makes them your hostages. So stay out of their business, stop using them for your happiness, and be your own happiness. And that way you are the teacher for your children: someone who knows how to live a happy life.” – Byron Katie
“To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety, and fear. Do I know what’s right for me? That is my only business. Let me work with that before I try to solve problems for you.” – Byron Katie
“Just keep coming home to yourself, you are the one who you’ve been waiting for.” – Byron Katie
Instead of focusing on how anyone else can do a better job at living their lives, let’s turn our attention inward. It’s tempting to offer unsolicited advice or to try to fix the problems of those we care about, but in so doing, we often create more harm than good. Let’s prioritize our own well-being, our own happiness, and our own personal growth. By doing so, we become a source of inspiration and support for those around us.
This doesn’t mean we should become selfish or indifferent to the suffering of others. It simply means not being up in anybody’s business, and recognizing that we can only truly help others when we are grounded in our own sense of peace and purpose.
Stay in your own business, with these reminders:
- I release the need to control anyone.
- I honor my own needs and limits.
- I choose peace over drama.
- I choose to focus on what is mine to act upon.
- I honor everyone’s journey without judgment.
So, let us make a conscious effort to mind our own business. Let us cultivate self-awareness, prioritize self-care, and approach our relationships with compassion and empathy. In doing so, we will not only experience greater peace and fulfillment in our own lives but also create a more harmonious world for all.
Have a beautiful Sunday peeps!
– pierre –
Today’s LIVE meditation is: Finding silence.